stay tuned for ‘the its347pmwelcometoheartbreak official interview’ fresh and new…some crazy chick has agreed (begged) to host a new round of pervasive questions. the location oddly is the same as before…and the interviewee, heartbreak is as nervous as ever.
the official interview took place in june 2007…only to be bigger, better and badder…coming to a screen near you.
1. don’t believe the hype. for some reason the last couple years we have been inundated with those news stories. the ones that declare, “the 25 best jobs that are recession proof” or “the 10 best cities for work,” ok, believe the hype but don’t get fooled by it. still search as broad as you can.
2. take a loooong steamy bath with candles or incense burning. learn how to relax. investigate ways to stay ok.
3. buy the best shampoo. for the record, shampoo will never ‘herbal essence’ me, but a kick arse shampoo sets me ri-right…every daggone time. trust.
4. watch hgtv’s ‘house hunters’. this show makes me almost cry or throw fits. did you see the episode where this lady finds the most beautifulest (i know!!) home in cabo san lucas…ol’ girl even had an office with a 360 degree view of the ocean. lucky ass. but i love hgtv’s ‘house hunters’ you get to learn about cities, countries…the housing market…you get to dream. to me, tv today is mostly craptacious…but a few good shows still exist. or..write your own…and submit. keep all possibilities open and on you.
5. more of a warning, i am really troubled that companies are looking into people’s facebook and myspace pages. i equate that to determine an employee by looking at the bumper stickers in the parking lot. so be careful with what you put out there…or just watch your privacy settings or your name. it sux because you can’t have total freedom online…somehow it has been determined that it is expectable for hiring managers to inspect and use your online profile to access you as a potential employee. but what i want to ask is who is checking the facebook profiles of those already working in the office? will hr decide to let them go if they post a britney spear’s video on their myspace profile? and just how far is this gonna go? so, be careful out there.
6. go to the library. there are so many disciplines of study and so much instruction. you never know if a new focus or “light bulb” idea may happen. and it’s free.
7. don’t get caught up in your own disappointment. and if you do, don’t self-destruct. each breath you take could yield a new opportunity.
8. consider reality tv. my friend has insisted that we are going on ‘the amazing race,’ but we haven’t come up with a good story yet. i have auditioned for a few years ago, why don’t you try. you never know.
9. find good music. i’d suggest for those into a more instrumental yet funky mix kodomo’s “still life.”
10. if you’re a girl and you like oddly bad girl stuff and you just need to feel “liberated” try the last few minutes of ‘deathproof’ i could listen to the dialouge all day. quentin tarantino has a way of capturing a truly down, raw yet entertaining glance at girl speak. before you get it twisted…this movie is a movie…a violent one. but the cinematography is perfect…still picture perfect. the story is creepy and again…violent. but the artistry of the dialouge is genius. features…rosario dawson, tracie thoms, zoe bell (as herself) and mary elizabeth winstead. i’d suggest…just fast forward to this half of ‘deathproof’ it’s wild and it soothes my pain for all of 30 mins. or so. that’s if you are into riotgirl wicked violence…soothing…(ahem…) pain.
and then again…maybe i’ve said too much.
my insanity should be checked, job or no job, on a regular basis. but if that means it would stop the smiles that i get, maybe i shouldn’t ask for an examination after all.
the latest list of companies downsizing is ugly. it literally makes me sick…it makes my heart hurt and when i think of those numbers i think of families, more so people losing their much needed salaries. i rejoice at the prospects of president barack obama leading this country with an eager and resounding gasp of relief but i know that even he with all of his exuberant productivity so far, visions and dreams has said that it will take time. and that’s why i’m here…listening to a watering effect of techno music to later formulate an article for…but mostly to help keep you sane.
if you are currently unemployed what i am about to say will not help you but you should know that
feel better? you shouldn’t. it doesn’t make me feel any better, i’m just giving you the facts.
so here’s a few of my suggestions
1. everyone stresses networking. but who are you gonna network with if no one is working? i say still network. tell everyone you know you never know what sympathetic ear might become a helping hand. try the school you graduated from. try even your church. try contacting colleges or their websites for career help and information. don’t discount the power of communicating out who you are and what you want. to be honest, it’s never worked for me but i hold out the hope that it could and frankly i haven’t tried it so much recently.
2. don’t despair. if you find that you are depressed about not finding an opportunity, if everywhere you go, you suffer a “no.” if you can’t pay your bills, travel to relocate, if you can’t find a win. DO NOT GIVE UP. DO NOT STOP LOOKING. NEVER. you can take a break from the stresses of looking and applying. you can whine and cry for hours about there being nothing out there. BUT NEVER STOP SEARCHING. if you find that you can’t take the strain, talk to someone. get help. i find that if i feel like i’m losing HARD, if I’m having an usually tough day i try to find something i can win at, a video game, a quiz show (for me specifically it’s jeopardy, the 12 year old school kids edition), or it’s finding a new hobby, but lately for me it’s running 5 miles with crazy music rattling the insides of my brain. i somehow revel in the achy legs, blurry vision and muscle strain only because it’s a goal and i win every time. it helps my bravado. possibly do self-satisfying volunteer work. try volunteermatch.com. or try your hand at something…a hobby, a freelance opportunity, creating a blog…writing. picking up an instrument you’ve always wanted to play. read novels. just get that satisfaction back of winning at something.
3. if you haven’t made that jump to getting on a social networking site like myspace or facebook…try it. you may connect with old friends who can possibly help or at least all those hours you spend finding the right music and layout for your page will at least take your mind off of things for a bit. (ok, i can’t believe i just suggested that)
4. be patient with people. i can’t believe that i actually get mad when people try and cheer me up. they say, “it will get better,” “a lot of people are not working right now,” or “have you tried (fill in the blank…)?” and they study me with their eyes like what they’ve suggested is the answer. and bless their hearts, mostly, it will be something so basic and remedial that i’ve tried it a thousand times over. they are just trying to be sweet, so be patient and tell them what you’ve tried…and be patient. and listen. and be patient and tell them.
5. GO OUT. i’ve been blessed with kooky friends who like wine and i like wine, i even like getting into discussions about wine. GO OUT and laugh and make fun of people’s weird black and white ‘where’s waldo’ sweaters. or go to a club and practice ne-yo’s “closer” dance moves or even soulja boi. just be sure to not waste away in gloom…life is still all about living.
6. explore your passions.
7. try learning a new language. take a class.
8. strategically try and analyze what makes you happy and try to get there as if it would cost you your life. out of crazy circumstances some of the best most ingenious things happen.
9. look up travel ideas at travelchannel.com and dream up a vacation in the greek isles of mykonos.
10. if you’ve applied to a certain “genre” of jobs and nothing’s worked, try something else.
11. most importantly, find a good friend, someone who is that perfect mix of a realist and a dreamer that you can discuss your lowest moods and your successes. i am blessed, i talk to God and my special…both always seem to put a smile on my face at the end of my “sessions” and there have been many sessions.
12. worse comes to worse and you are still hurting…post it here. i can try to help.
my friend and i were having dinner last weekend at a pretty cool japanese restaurant. small ripped sheets of construction paper were on the table for the occasional haiku flair up. we had just seen ’slumdog millionaire’ so it was requested of me to write a haiku review. nearly impossible it was but i managed and she swept up my scribbles.
in the span of our dinner, i learned of a laffable commonality. i was asked to select a spot for dinner for my family…i kept suggesting a place i had never been, a tapas bar, downtown columbus. everyone kept asking me what i was talking about. i said, “a tapas bar. a tapas bar!!!! tapas. where you have small dishes, like samples to chose from. a tapas bar.” “what?” they’d ask. “tapas,” i’d say. further discussion made me realize they thought i was suggesting a ‘topless’ bar for dinner. when mentioning this topic to other friends at least two others have been accused of selecting ‘topless’ establishments for dinner as well.
watch what u say…
the first time i heard this song…it floored me. the overall mood, sentiment…appealed to me when i was really down. but today i’m up and i regularly exercise to a wide variety of music: kirk franklin, rick ross, kings of leon, kanye west, nine inch nails, rhiana, jay z, robin s (lol), lil wayne…no matter, this song always, always moves me…so i want to share it with you. even if you ain’t about this spiritual stuff, hey, it’s a great song. just listen…
the vocals are perfect.
i’m sitting here listening to the acoustic beauty soundscapes of brett dennen and going thru my facebook profile and NO, i’m not crying but i hear from folk that i’ve long wondered about and their current lives are so freakin interesting. it’s cool and breath-taking and humbling and sweet to hear from them. to a certain degree they formed who i am from waaay back in the day.
and what is really funny is to hear what my old mystery crushes have been up to…too bad they’ll never ever know that part of me, let me re-phrase, “too good.” but it is awesome to read about their lives.
God love ‘em…
oddly enough i’ve been the least bit excited about the ringing in of the new year, more than i can realize ever in my life. i’m not sure why, either. and i’m not really worried about it. my life is good, i’m blessed, i’m happy….i’ve got some awesome gifts, man. specialness abounds and abounds and abounds, and it sooo did in 2008.
i usually make some share of resolutions, and i’m so over THAT…too. i figure that the only and best way we can better ourselves this ‘09 is to just give more to others this year…than we did last year.
how cool is that?
this year, i’ve gotten a list of stuff i asked for. gigs….friends…loves…i mean, love…more love….stranger love, warm love, funny love, deep love. gigs that speak to my passion. i’ve played in the beach (twice), i’ve traveled more…i’ve kept in line with somehow seeing john legend in concert i think every year since he’s had an album release….i saw him open for usher, open for kanye, i’ve seen keyshia cole open for him, lyfe open for him, him perform at my high school, and raphael saadiq open for him…it’s been a cool oddity.
enuff ’bout that…just be positive this year, make it your year. do good and feel good despite how dire your circumstances may seem because if you keep going…thing’s will definitely turn around. i base that on my spiritual beliefs…base it on whatever you want.
and love, daggonit…just love yourself and others as if they had your face…your blood, your dreams, your desires.
i only operate in passions. and when i share them with you, i’d like you to notice. if you disagree i will not dismay but find a place to store you. in this journey together, i would opt to be as intriguing as you dare me, and to learn you, completely.
loves: film, theatre, music, writing, reading, travel, gaming, learning about culture, introduction, beginnings and endings for endings have brought me you.
infatuations: politics, the sugar-hater clique, all discussions about celebs gone wild, most food, most film, most tv, angelina jolie, men, women, men women interaction, the eradication of racism and the state of the world, God, universal health care, hippies, poets.
flirtations: traveling by car, city, the sun, the beach, intelligent people, the sand, the moon, vinyl records, writers, and beginnings.
no experience. no remedy. just you and me and words.
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